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If you are single and looking for love this article is for you

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Match maker, match maker make me a match, this famous song sung in the movie Fiddler on the roof. Dear friends, are you single, a single parent, divorced or just looking for a partner to love. This blog is for you :-

 

When I was in my early  twenties I decided I wanted to be a nun, but I loved make –up , high heels and pretty dresses sure I could have hidden it in my habit some where. I was quite serious and my mum was crying to all her family that I was going to be well a nun who liked to dress up for the mass or service on Sunday but as I reached my mid twenties my desire to be held and loved by some one over powered my desire of the Habit.

 

No I could not be a nun I was like a tabby cat who liked her furs and make-up and waited for that hug from her beau ( we did not kiss till 4 months into courting) was I wrong in wanting a relationship and family the answer is no. Every one needs love and I believe every one has a soul mate.

 

I was 27 when I met my husband and 28 when we got married I would have preferred to have got married earlier but I was in the nun mode and met none. It is a rare gift to be celibate not every one has that gift except a chosen few like the apostle Paul, Mother Theresa, Amy Carmichael, these are special people, people who give of themselves for a higher call.

 

Now we have the other extreme of  bed hopping, no I am not judging you but sex is an emotional, physical, psychological process two bodies entwining in physical union is beautiful and can create another  human being it should not be taken lightly. I saved my self for marriage not that I had many opportunities to give up my virginity but I wanted my wedding night to be special with my husband all I can say was it was trial and error.

 

But if you have had sex before it is not wrong or shameful, but look for that one special person and before you hop into bed think will this act be a blessing on my life or if you are in love get married , if you are in a live in  relationship as many people are doing that these days make a commitment to each other before God.

God does not get angry, he will not punish you and He loves and cares for both of you. God did not judge the Samaritan woman with 4 husbands.

 

Mary Magdalene a follower of Jesus was a prostitute and when she poured perfume on his feet, washed his feet her tears and wiped his feet with her hair she was made brand new again just like a virgin she was clean.

 

Dear ones God has that one man or woman for you, there are many ways of meeting your life partner, university, church, computers , work places, Shadi.Com

 

There is someone for everyone keep praying and remember do not worry what people think of you only your relationship to God and your partner matter I am not here to judge you every one is different if Jesus did not judge people how much more so should we be like Jesus. Love is what the world needs and Love is what Jesus came to give.

Love from Indian Aunty

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

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Hi there dear sweetypies, my dear munchkins how are you all doing ? Today I would like to talk to all the mummies out there and those who are in relationships and those who would like to get into relationships this article is specially designed for the women.

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

― Marilyn Monroe

In this  world dear senoritas it takes effort and perseverance to bag your man and keep him. It does not mean once you are married you change your wardrobe to sweats and non complementing lounge wear. NO this is the time to look your best for your man. In the morning before your sweet heart goes to work make an effort to change from your PJ’s and wear something smart and bright and also remember to brush your teeth, comb your hair and wear make up. I am by no means telling you to be a Geisha but look your best.

When a man leaves home with his bride just out of bed uncombed hair sans make up and a grogy good bye from wifey , this man goes straight to work and the first thing he sees miss gorgeous with perfume, perfect hair and make up at the reception desk.

No we all can not look like Marilyn Manroe or Victoria secret models but we have to work at it. Women the ALL NATURAL look has gone with the cave men we are now in a cosmetic enhanced world. Not everyone is born with great height, skin, hair and beauty we have to work at this to keep our men where we would like Him to be and that is by our side till death us do part.

Women should take care of themselves many feminists believe that they can do things as well as any man but remember “gals” God first made man in His image and then the woman to complement the man.

If you want to get into a relationship with a man or keep the fire going in your relationship first and foremost commit to prayer and then the gym, hair, make up, waxing , bathing, flossing and perfume. Surprise your man when he comes home from work one day send the kids to grandma’s house and set the mood once your preened and pruned wear something sexy light the house with candles and cook his favorite meal. Let me tell you your homeboy will be surprised and very appreciative.

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

― Marilyn Monroe, Marilyn

Non of us women are perfect how ever much we try but we can bring warmth, positivity and joy into our home. Do not belittle your children, do not nag your husbands just try and be patient and loving. “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”1 Corinthians 13:4-6,13.

We need to love our husbands and families and if we love God this love naturally overflows. We do not need cosmetic surgery even though if you have the means it can boost self esteem but the greatest boost of self esteem comes from our families.

Women do not look at success from the world point of view if you have a loving stable home or are searching for one always take it up in prayer and then also look your best even you have hit the jackpot of a handsome rich husband keeping that relationship alive and motivating is up to you so remember God first and family second and you third.

We must keep our families happy and that includes husband, children and yourself. When I was at school our English teacher told us to write our epitaph or what would be written on our grave and I wrote many years before I met my husband    “She was the sunshine of our home” Many times there have been dark clouds, rain, rainbows and I always pray there will most often be sunshine.

So with rays of light and delight

The Indian Aunty signing off

Everyone deserves a chance to love and be loved in return

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Hi there munchkins this blog is designed specially for those who are looking for love. I believe every human being has a partner specially designed for him or her. When God made man God made them male and female. Now through the evolving of the world and the evolving of morals there are relationships between man and man or woman and woman.

I am not here to judge or criticize you or push religion down your throats. In fact I have a few gay guy friends. I love these people who have one longing that is love.

Love the ungodly, love the gay or lesbian. Do you know there is a prostitute in the lineage of Jesus called Rahab. Love the different and the difficult. Love the gothics they are just expressing how they feel to the world.

Man can be born that way to be attracted to men or there must be some underlying problem in his life. There are even Christian eunuchs or transvestites in the Bible who are mentioned in the Old and New Testament. There is the place in heaven for the different.

People in this fallen world where there is binge drinking, one night stands and homosexual relationships all cry out for one word and that is love. Unconditional Love and acceptance into this world for who they are.

Why should we categorize people by their outward appearance be it a particular religion, race, dress sense or if they are who they are. Let me tell you something Jesus was a non conformist . He brought about free grace and forgiveness of sins by dying a shameful death on the cross. He did not judge the woman caught in adultery. He spoke to a woman who had many husbands where even speaking to someone of the opposite sex was considered a sin much less a Samaritan woman.

He saw the corruption in the Synagogue and overturned the tables and drove out the self righteous bigots or Pharisees.

He was not a Pharisee he was a carpenter by trade a simple non conforming human being who drank wine  and ate with the people the world turned it’s back on.

He dined with the tax collectors and prostitutes and touched lepers and healed them. Who are we to judge the gays, lesbians, prostitutes  or the gothics they are people like you and me seeking love, seeking their identity and seeking a God of love.

Do not be a bigot or gossiper if you point out one finger at them with your self righteous seat remember there are four fingers pointing back at you.

Learn to love, The Bible says love your neighbor as your self . The greatest command in the Bible is LOVE. If you want to change the world have LOVE .  Friend LOVE exists it is real like a warm waterfall. Man, relationships, money can not give you that love but God can. I do not care if you are a drug addict or alcoholic or have had multiple sexual partners but just go into a room close the door and say God if you are real show me your love minimum time is 15 minutes and watch him spread his love over you. Just try it once you have love , That love can take the place of addictions what ever it is. He is real and He loves you.

Love from the non conforming

Indian Aunty