Be An Encourager

dearest darlings, sweetypies, munchkins my cho cho chweet darlings how have you been ? Well I have been doing well and supporting my husband in his  teaching in our church. When we said our marriage vows it is for better for worse for richer or poorer, in sickness and I  health till death do us part.

We are of different cultures and colours but one thing remains we said our vows in church in front of God and family and friends and  we both took our vows seriously. We have had our ups and downs but our marriage has been like the Ocean sometimes there are heavy winds and storms but the ocean remains steadfast so is our marriage while God is our light house bringing light to our storms and winds.

We both have a steady hand guiding us and that hand is our Almighty God. Today as I sat at the bible study that my husband takes at our church I thought what more can I do that will make me a better wife to my husband and I clearly felt “ Support Him” He has been with me about seven years while he was working in IT as a computer Engineer while we were dating now he is serving God and is studying to be a pastor.

My dad is an Anglican Minister and I admired his preaching and teaching and here am I so many years later admiring my husband’s teaching and supporting him. When I was younger God gave me a verse which said “ me and my house will serve the Lord “ Now that verse is being fulfilled.

Dear friends what God promises he provides and guides. You may be dreaming of a life partner hold on to God and he will provide. You may be asking God to open doors in business or in ministry, dear friends if God has promised you this he will open that door it took 6 years for my husband to go into ministry but at the right time God opened the door.

Wait on God, read the word and just speak to God and watch God fulfil that plan for your life. As for me I am overflowing with gratitude and thankfulness to God for giving me the joy and privilege in hearing my husband conduct that Bible study and all I want to be is a supportive wife sans nagging and a wonderful mother to my gorgeous two year old daughter if I can accomplish this I would have fulfilled my role on earth as a wife and mother at this time for my family.

Today all I can say is I am grateful and content with my role on this earth

Money, Karma and Women

My dearest sweet munchkins how are you? How are you darlings ? Well today I am going to write to the women with some girlie banter I do not want any of you get offended with my girlie banter but here it goes ………

One day a pastor went to shop for a bra for his wife so he went into this Christian bra store and the lady said sir “ we have a catholic bra that holds the masses, the brethren bra that uplifts the fallen and above all we have the Pentecostal bra that makes mountains out of molehills “ So the pastor said give me the Pentecostal bra for my wife and went away smiling………

Dear friends, sometimes  life is like a bra  you can stretch your personality ,savings, friendships, your spouse to the limit but at the end it bounces back to its originality and to your real self.

Lets talk about money for a change we save, we earn, we spend, we learn. Money can be stretched to the limit but it always bounces back till we get our next pay check. Money should be respected and people with money are respected it is not the most important thing in the world but lets face the facts it is very important.

I do not like talking about money and did not know its importance but I learnt from my family that we should give into our church and God’s ministers. By giving we are being blessed. When we give money call it blessing, karma or fate the blessings come back at us.

I remember when I was working in Microsoft in India I gave into my church, an orphanage and to God’s minter and the next months I got better salary because I believe I pleased God by giving.

I do not think you have to give all your money away but keep one tenth of your money for God. It can also go into a worthy cause like an orphanage or needy relative. God will bless you for that. Learn to give and learn to receive.

I had a problem of learning to receive money as I thought there were more needy people than me but I am still learning to receive things except flowers and  dark chocolates which I love but there are people who must learn to be gracious enough in learning to receive and learning to give they both go hand in hand.

If you feel you can not give money give your time just learn to love people some people have gone through hard times and it makes their heart hard but one day tell God why you are angry  forgive that person and ask Jesus to fill your heart with love for other people and he will fill your heart with love.

By giving a hug to the elderly, or cooking something for a friend or sending money for a worthy project will do wonders for your finance and life and what goes around comes around give out love and what ever you feel you can do or give and watch God bless you.

So from the Christian finance inspector

The Indian Aunty

If you are single and looking for love this article is for you

Match maker, match maker make me a match, this famous song sung in the movie Fiddler on the roof. Dear friends, are you single, a single parent, divorced or just looking for a partner to love. This blog is for you :-


When I was in my early  twenties I decided I wanted to be a nun, but I loved make –up , high heels and pretty dresses sure I could have hidden it in my habit some where. I was quite serious and my mum was crying to all her family that I was going to be well a nun who liked to dress up for the mass or service on Sunday but as I reached my mid twenties my desire to be held and loved by some one over powered my desire of the Habit.


No I could not be a nun I was like a tabby cat who liked her furs and make-up and waited for that hug from her beau ( we did not kiss till 4 months into courting) was I wrong in wanting a relationship and family the answer is no. Every one needs love and I believe every one has a soul mate.


I was 27 when I met my husband and 28 when we got married I would have preferred to have got married earlier but I was in the nun mode and met none. It is a rare gift to be celibate not every one has that gift except a chosen few like the apostle Paul, Mother Theresa, Amy Carmichael, these are special people, people who give of themselves for a higher call.


Now we have the other extreme of  bed hopping, no I am not judging you but sex is an emotional, physical, psychological process two bodies entwining in physical union is beautiful and can create another  human being it should not be taken lightly. I saved my self for marriage not that I had many opportunities to give up my virginity but I wanted my wedding night to be special with my husband all I can say was it was trial and error.


But if you have had sex before it is not wrong or shameful, but look for that one special person and before you hop into bed think will this act be a blessing on my life or if you are in love get married , if you are in a live in  relationship as many people are doing that these days make a commitment to each other before God.

God does not get angry, he will not punish you and He loves and cares for both of you. God did not judge the Samaritan woman with 4 husbands.


Mary Magdalene a follower of Jesus was a prostitute and when she poured perfume on his feet, washed his feet her tears and wiped his feet with her hair she was made brand new again just like a virgin she was clean.


Dear ones God has that one man or woman for you, there are many ways of meeting your life partner, university, church, computers , work places, Shadi.Com


There is someone for everyone keep praying and remember do not worry what people think of you only your relationship to God and your partner matter I am not here to judge you every one is different if Jesus did not judge people how much more so should we be like Jesus. Love is what the world needs and Love is what Jesus came to give.

Love from Indian Aunty

Bible Study On 1 Timothy 2:9-14 The Role Of Women In The Church

9 I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.

11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. 15 But woman will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.{2tim2:9-14}

Apostle Paul talks about the position of women in the body of Christ being the Church. I believe that Apostle Paul If I dare say is being a male chauvinist in his approach towards women within the body of Christ that is the Church.

Not being a feminist and taking these verses from their cultural point of view it is said that these women used to take great pains in their  outward appearance.

This is the year 2011 and women in this age too take great pains in their outward appearance going to the gym, make-up, plastic surgery and like me braces  as a teenager and now a yo yo dieter still trying to get the slender frame of my youth but I just got to tell myself “ Lady you are approaching middle age you ain’t no 16 anymore” If my Jewish sisters took such pains that Apostle Paul noticed 2000 years ago how much more now.

What Apostle Paul tried to say is let your personality and your inward spirit take pre-eminence. Not all women are quite and contrite, you got all sorts of women now as it was 2000 years back.

Apostle Paul seems to contradict himself when he says “ There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male nor female for we are all one in Christ Jesus” (Gal 3:28)

Therefore the rhetorical question is Why did apostle Paul state so vehemently the proper way for women to dress, behave and the give them a lower role than the men in church? Fascinating what is actually going on this immensely brilliant, most radically called, transformed and saved Apostle’s mind?

Now I think in this context one should use the Holy Spirit discretion and direction in understanding in this scripture and the context of this scripture in the cultural point of view 2000 years back.

I vehemently oppose taking scripture out of context and building intellectual castles of theology based on that particular scripture.

I am now looking at this context of scripture from a scriptural point of view if you my dear brother or sister are brethren you are going to be very happy with what I am going to say.:)

Why did God create woman out of man. God could have created women first we are more attractive, more complex and can also give birth to new life. But God created MAN first.

Now let us go back to our bible study God used a number of women in scripture like the prophetess Deborah, The prophetess Anna now this will blow your socks away God even used a prostitute Rahab whose name was mentioned in the lineage of Jesus but Jesus was conceived of the Holy Spirit. Now we read 1tim 2:14 which portrays woman as fickle minded and naïve. But I believe the contrary that God ahs bestowed man and woman with equal amount of intelligence. When we read in Genesis 3:6 That the woman took the fruit and ate it and gave some to her husband Adam who was right beside her, he could have prevented her and this led to the fall of mankind.

Man and woman differ emotionally, psychologically, physiologically and emotionally because of their constitution and the way they are made.

If we take into account Paul’s previous letters ( Dear  brethren sister and brother this is the part you will agree with me whole heartedly) Women ought to be submissive to the man that is her husband but man don’t get too happy you got to love your wife as Christ loves the church..

In a marriage covenant man is the head of the woman. Why is the male figure the head? Because God ordained it that way and we know this through the word of God the bible.

Now if we take the five fold ministry into account there are certain gifts bestowed on men and certain gifts  universally.

I believe the gift of the apostle and pastor are specifically for men. Jesus our good Shepard and pastor was a man to guide and Shepard the flock. Logically speaking Jesus came in the form of a Shepard or pastor to guide the  flock the lost of Israel. Therefore the pastor should be a man to guide the and equip the flock, the congregation.

Now let us take the ministry of the apostle the sent one, the one who plants churches Jesus chose 12 apostles not one was a woman. Jesus had women disciples but no women apostles. The gift of the apostle is specifically for the men.

Now coming back to our present time 21st centaury women now consider themselves equal to men in all respects but Christian women need to show the world that we are not equal in all respects once a Christian woman marries her head is her husband.

Now the church the bride of Christ is looked as feminine awaiting her heavenly bridegroom.

In conclusion I would like to say God did not create woman out of a man’s head to Lord it over him. God did not create woman out of a man’s foot  for him to make her his doormat and trample on her but God created woman out of man’s rib close to his heart to love her and cherish her as Christ loved the church


Thank you God for making me a woman


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