Be An Encourager

dearest darlings, sweetypies, munchkins my cho cho chweet darlings how have you been ? Well I have been doing well and supporting my husband in his  teaching in our church. When we said our marriage vows it is for better for worse for richer or poorer, in sickness and I  health till death do us part.

We are of different cultures and colours but one thing remains we said our vows in church in front of God and family and friends and  we both took our vows seriously. We have had our ups and downs but our marriage has been like the Ocean sometimes there are heavy winds and storms but the ocean remains steadfast so is our marriage while God is our light house bringing light to our storms and winds.

We both have a steady hand guiding us and that hand is our Almighty God. Today as I sat at the bible study that my husband takes at our church I thought what more can I do that will make me a better wife to my husband and I clearly felt “ Support Him” He has been with me about seven years while he was working in IT as a computer Engineer while we were dating now he is serving God and is studying to be a pastor.

My dad is an Anglican Minister and I admired his preaching and teaching and here am I so many years later admiring my husband’s teaching and supporting him. When I was younger God gave me a verse which said “ me and my house will serve the Lord “ Now that verse is being fulfilled.

Dear friends what God promises he provides and guides. You may be dreaming of a life partner hold on to God and he will provide. You may be asking God to open doors in business or in ministry, dear friends if God has promised you this he will open that door it took 6 years for my husband to go into ministry but at the right time God opened the door.

Wait on God, read the word and just speak to God and watch God fulfil that plan for your life. As for me I am overflowing with gratitude and thankfulness to God for giving me the joy and privilege in hearing my husband conduct that Bible study and all I want to be is a supportive wife sans nagging and a wonderful mother to my gorgeous two year old daughter if I can accomplish this I would have fulfilled my role on earth as a wife and mother at this time for my family.

Today all I can say is I am grateful and content with my role on this earth

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If you are single and looking for love this article is for you

Match maker, match maker make me a match, this famous song sung in the movie Fiddler on the roof. Dear friends, are you single, a single parent, divorced or just looking for a partner to love. This blog is for you :-

 

When I was in my early  twenties I decided I wanted to be a nun, but I loved make –up , high heels and pretty dresses sure I could have hidden it in my habit some where. I was quite serious and my mum was crying to all her family that I was going to be well a nun who liked to dress up for the mass or service on Sunday but as I reached my mid twenties my desire to be held and loved by some one over powered my desire of the Habit.

 

No I could not be a nun I was like a tabby cat who liked her furs and make-up and waited for that hug from her beau ( we did not kiss till 4 months into courting) was I wrong in wanting a relationship and family the answer is no. Every one needs love and I believe every one has a soul mate.

 

I was 27 when I met my husband and 28 when we got married I would have preferred to have got married earlier but I was in the nun mode and met none. It is a rare gift to be celibate not every one has that gift except a chosen few like the apostle Paul, Mother Theresa, Amy Carmichael, these are special people, people who give of themselves for a higher call.

 

Now we have the other extreme of  bed hopping, no I am not judging you but sex is an emotional, physical, psychological process two bodies entwining in physical union is beautiful and can create another  human being it should not be taken lightly. I saved my self for marriage not that I had many opportunities to give up my virginity but I wanted my wedding night to be special with my husband all I can say was it was trial and error.

 

But if you have had sex before it is not wrong or shameful, but look for that one special person and before you hop into bed think will this act be a blessing on my life or if you are in love get married , if you are in a live in  relationship as many people are doing that these days make a commitment to each other before God.

God does not get angry, he will not punish you and He loves and cares for both of you. God did not judge the Samaritan woman with 4 husbands.

 

Mary Magdalene a follower of Jesus was a prostitute and when she poured perfume on his feet, washed his feet her tears and wiped his feet with her hair she was made brand new again just like a virgin she was clean.

 

Dear ones God has that one man or woman for you, there are many ways of meeting your life partner, university, church, computers , work places, Shadi.Com

 

There is someone for everyone keep praying and remember do not worry what people think of you only your relationship to God and your partner matter I am not here to judge you every one is different if Jesus did not judge people how much more so should we be like Jesus. Love is what the world needs and Love is what Jesus came to give.

Love from Indian Aunty

No man succeeds without a good woman behind him. Wife or mother, if it is both, he is twice blessed indeed. Harold MacMillan

 

 

 

Hi there dearest dearest munchkins, sweetypies, my cho cho chweet friends, how are you all doing ? Well I had an interesting week just watched the Bollywood movie Cocktail which it was aptly named fewer the words the better but I thank God for happy endings.

 

Well my dear cutey pies today I am going to talk to wifes out there, the mummies out there. In one of my previous blogs I stressed on the point to looking good for our better halfs now I going to tell you something learn to complement him. Tell him honey you look smart in that pair of Jeans and white shirt or tell him wow look at that tux it will make you look so handsome. Buy him small gifts of cufflinks, or deodorant, after shave or even perfume in this world and age even men like to be treated once in a while if you are not in the buying thing, bake him a cake, cook him nice dinner just show him how much you appreciate him.

 

Men they work from 9-5pm they are busy sometimes they get stressed do not irritate or complain to them, let it wait give them a good meal and when they are well settled talk to them in a soft voice. Aggression in women is a turn off so is miss “bitchitities”  please be patient with him. Women you can never be his mother but be his best second half listen to him, counsel him, no one knows him better than you do make life exciting in the week ends play scrabble or Uno just be his best friend.

 

I have learnt if you want your marriage to work be his best and closest friend then of course take time with your figure, hair and make up and if there is a fight I urge you women to be humble enough to apologize to him. Men you too need to take care of your women and treat them well with date nights every week we need marriages to work. We need humility in our lives before God and before our spouses and we need to bring back love for our wives and for our families.

 

So let the God of Love reign in our lives

 

From Doctor Lovology

The Indian Aunty