Summer Holidays

Hi there dear sweetypies, my cho cho chweet friends it is time for summer holidays. I always remember the holidays I had in India as a child I was born in Bangalore and we went to a neighbouring city called Mysore from there we went to Ooty a hill station we had fun times in those nostalgic carefree happy times as children.

Ooty called little England because of it’s cool climate was wonderful. The Ooty rose garden and the lake where we went rowing was so much fun. Times have changed, the quiet peaceful world where I grew up in Bangalore has changed to a cosmopolitan, busy business centre more like the Hongkong of China, like the London of UK.

Change for the positive as well as the negative. The simple Indian life of Dhoti and Juba ( that is traditional attire for men ) and the traditional Sari and Salwar ( traditional attire for women) has changed to Jeans designer t-shirts and short skirts, boots, short blouses how can an rural India change to such Urban life because the world is changing from cell phones, to television, to fashion, to movies we can not get the past back ,but those memories will always be in our hearts and minds.

Now it is time for me and my brood to go for holidays so you my dear munchkins will hear from me only the week after next but I want you all to know how much I appreciate your comments and likes and hope all of you have a happy week.

If change can make a person wiser, healthier and  nicer then that change must be sought after and that is the change I am seeking in these holidays. It is not wise to relive your childhood in adult stage but being like children in doing things like running on the beach with your loved ones, running in the rain or splashing around on the beach and having fun can do wonders for stress.

So fret not, worry not, stress not take a deep breathes clear your mind and think on happy thoughts and may you have a happier, healthier, fun filled week as well.

Lots of love, hugs, and happiness

The Indian aunty going on holidays

O Captain! My Captain!

O Captain! my Captain! our fearful trip is done;
The ship has weathered every rock,the prize we sought is won;
The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting,
While follow eyes the steady keel, the vessel grim and daring: Walt Whitman,

Hi there dear munchkins, my darlings, my chocho chweet friends, How are you all doing? Today I am going to talk about Life, Karma or Fate who navigates our life ? Is it some supreme force of the universe called God or is it your parents, friends, loved ones ?

Dear friends they all have a role to play in your life but the choice is up to you. Sometimes man makes right choices, wrong choices, hard choices but dear one “You” ultimately make the choice good or bad.

Sometimes the environment we live in makes choices and the freedom of choice is taken from us but do you know there will come a time when we can overcome the environment or society and make our move to a better future for ourselves.

We are like players in a game of chess with Divine intervening with the society as we should strategize our intelligent next move. Let me tell you dear munchkins if we carefully planned and strategized our life we would not be or could be where we are now.

He who fails to plan, plans to fail. I never in this world planed anything in my life. I am quite childish in my approach to life I have no enemies, love my fellow human beings and like to go on skipping in the sunshine collecting daises and flowers and everything is wonderful in this bubble of life I have built but I know life is not about butterflies and daises and roses there are hard times in life and I have been through them but I do not want to think about it.

Life is better if we let God plan our life and seek heavenly guidance before any major decision or choice I have learnt to plan small things in my life now like picnics but what I learnt so far is let God do the planning and we walk in His plans.

Let us pray:-

Dear God you plan my life from now on make my mess of a life into a message for the world so that I walk in God’s plan.

Live life to the fullest with God being your Captain.

Lots of love and from the Indian Aunty

Money, Friends and Bills

Hi there dear sweetypie, munchkins, darlings, how are you today ? Today I would like to talk to you about friendship or frandship as they say in India. We all need friends like people who we rely on in hard times and people who we get along with and form that loving bond of togetherness.

People who we like to have fun with and just get along finding those people is not easy and once we find them we have to cultivate our relationships.  There are people when we meet them there is a spark right away. When I met my husband there was chemistry  right away and we got along great from our first date.

There are people who are lonely in this world. Like people living in an old age home they need love. Single parents, divorced parents they all need love. What is this love they need ? it can just be someone who gives them a hug, someone who would listen to them, someone who cares enough to cook them a meal and bring it over.

Dear friends we live in a cosmopolitan, busy, hectic  life where people live to work but let me ask you is life all about making money and forgetting our loved ones including our children and spouse.What happened to those days when life was easy and carefree. It has now become complicated and busy, busy.

Busy to spend quality time with our partner and children.

Yes you say who will pay the mortgage and car insurance, and electric and food bills have gone up. Gone are those days when we lived simple easy lives. But let me tell you life does not need to be a struggle. Life is to be enjoyed contentment is not easy these days. Oh yes ! we need that house like Mr and Mrs Jones, We need that car why can’t we just take early retirement once we have what we need to live comfortably and enjoy playing golf and looking after our grand kids.

Dearest munchkins let us make a positive change in our lives to spend quality time with our loved ones be it our children or our spouces. Take them out for a meal or bowling or golf just learn to cool down and enjoy this world that God has given us.

Love and be loved in return, lots of love from the Indian aunty

If Someone Slaps You On The Left Cheek Turn the Right Cheek As Well

Dear munchkins, my sweetypies my Cho Cho Chweet friends when I was young I watched a movie with Bud Spencer acting in it  I forgot the name of the movie. In that movie Bud and his friend go as missionaries to another place and one man who knew a bit of the Bible came to Bud and said it says “in the Bible if someone slaps you on one cheek turn the other cheek as well” and slaps Bud hard on the cheek, Bud immediately gets  the guy by the color and beats him up . Bud’s friend immediately comes up to Bud and shouts  at Bud to stop hitting the guy and reminds him of the Bible as Bud lets this guy go and all he said was “HE SLAPED ME  ON THE WRONG CHEEK”

Dear friends I come from India a land of democracy , peace, meditation, yoga and above all sathyagraha or non- violence started by our great freedom fighter Mahatma Ghandhi. How can we love people who have wronged us, forgive people who have done us harm. This issue goes back 2000 years back when Jesus on the cross said “Father forgive them for they know not what they do” These people literally put nails through Jesus palms and feet and hung him on the cross.

If He who did wrong to no one forgave them how much more should we forgive.

I was wronged today by some sales people I was upset but I knew I had to forgive them and now this situation is on the bygones list on my mind.

An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth will make the world blind and toothless  No we as people should not take revenge and justice is there any meaning in that word today if a lot of people have wronged us do we seek justice no seek to love them through prayer difficult but doable why love because Love is stronger than hate. I am no saint and there are times the fuse of my heart of love has had lighting problems but I do some breathing exercises, pray and leave my burdens at the feet of the God of light.

Let me tell you after that I am back to normal because He Christ lives in me.Tap into that inner energy and the God of light and peace will give you a Hakuna Matata journey through life no worries, worry does not accomplish any thing it is difficult to be worry free and care free but it is possible.

Let me end with a song because He lives I can face tomorrow because He lives all fear is gone because I know He holds my future and Life is worth a living because my Savior lives

If you are single and looking for love this article is for you

Match maker, match maker make me a match, this famous song sung in the movie Fiddler on the roof. Dear friends, are you single, a single parent, divorced or just looking for a partner to love. This blog is for you :-

 

When I was in my early  twenties I decided I wanted to be a nun, but I loved make –up , high heels and pretty dresses sure I could have hidden it in my habit some where. I was quite serious and my mum was crying to all her family that I was going to be well a nun who liked to dress up for the mass or service on Sunday but as I reached my mid twenties my desire to be held and loved by some one over powered my desire of the Habit.

 

No I could not be a nun I was like a tabby cat who liked her furs and make-up and waited for that hug from her beau ( we did not kiss till 4 months into courting) was I wrong in wanting a relationship and family the answer is no. Every one needs love and I believe every one has a soul mate.

 

I was 27 when I met my husband and 28 when we got married I would have preferred to have got married earlier but I was in the nun mode and met none. It is a rare gift to be celibate not every one has that gift except a chosen few like the apostle Paul, Mother Theresa, Amy Carmichael, these are special people, people who give of themselves for a higher call.

 

Now we have the other extreme of  bed hopping, no I am not judging you but sex is an emotional, physical, psychological process two bodies entwining in physical union is beautiful and can create another  human being it should not be taken lightly. I saved my self for marriage not that I had many opportunities to give up my virginity but I wanted my wedding night to be special with my husband all I can say was it was trial and error.

 

But if you have had sex before it is not wrong or shameful, but look for that one special person and before you hop into bed think will this act be a blessing on my life or if you are in love get married , if you are in a live in  relationship as many people are doing that these days make a commitment to each other before God.

God does not get angry, he will not punish you and He loves and cares for both of you. God did not judge the Samaritan woman with 4 husbands.

 

Mary Magdalene a follower of Jesus was a prostitute and when she poured perfume on his feet, washed his feet her tears and wiped his feet with her hair she was made brand new again just like a virgin she was clean.

 

Dear ones God has that one man or woman for you, there are many ways of meeting your life partner, university, church, computers , work places, Shadi.Com

 

There is someone for everyone keep praying and remember do not worry what people think of you only your relationship to God and your partner matter I am not here to judge you every one is different if Jesus did not judge people how much more so should we be like Jesus. Love is what the world needs and Love is what Jesus came to give.

Love from Indian Aunty

No man succeeds without a good woman behind him. Wife or mother, if it is both, he is twice blessed indeed. Harold MacMillan

 

 

 

Hi there dearest dearest munchkins, sweetypies, my cho cho chweet friends, how are you all doing ? Well I had an interesting week just watched the Bollywood movie Cocktail which it was aptly named fewer the words the better but I thank God for happy endings.

 

Well my dear cutey pies today I am going to talk to wifes out there, the mummies out there. In one of my previous blogs I stressed on the point to looking good for our better halfs now I going to tell you something learn to complement him. Tell him honey you look smart in that pair of Jeans and white shirt or tell him wow look at that tux it will make you look so handsome. Buy him small gifts of cufflinks, or deodorant, after shave or even perfume in this world and age even men like to be treated once in a while if you are not in the buying thing, bake him a cake, cook him nice dinner just show him how much you appreciate him.

 

Men they work from 9-5pm they are busy sometimes they get stressed do not irritate or complain to them, let it wait give them a good meal and when they are well settled talk to them in a soft voice. Aggression in women is a turn off so is miss “bitchitities”  please be patient with him. Women you can never be his mother but be his best second half listen to him, counsel him, no one knows him better than you do make life exciting in the week ends play scrabble or Uno just be his best friend.

 

I have learnt if you want your marriage to work be his best and closest friend then of course take time with your figure, hair and make up and if there is a fight I urge you women to be humble enough to apologize to him. Men you too need to take care of your women and treat them well with date nights every week we need marriages to work. We need humility in our lives before God and before our spouses and we need to bring back love for our wives and for our families.

 

So let the God of Love reign in our lives

 

From Doctor Lovology

The Indian Aunty

Yet food is something that is taken for granted by most world leaders despite the fact that more than half of the population of the world is hungry. Norman Borlaug

 

We are living in the 21st centaury in era of rockets, satellites, space stations, cloning, inter breeding of animals and plants to form hybrid varieties of flora and fauna, latest breakthroughs of medical science such as the use of laser therapy and medication, highly destructive military equipment we my friends are living in the the era of abundance of food, money, technology and fashion.

 

“Therefore I feel that the aforementioned guiding principle must be modified to read: If you desire peace, cultivate justice, but at the same time cultivate the fields to produce more bread; otherwise there will be no peace.”

Norman Borlaug

 

 

There are people eating themselves to death, drinking themselves to death, inhaling and injecting themselves to death all this costs huge amounts of money while there are people who do not have one meal a day. Where is social justice in all this ?

 

We have to educate our children, our young people, our future generation of this world that alcohol, drugs and free sex is not going to make a man out of you. We should care for our people in these developed countries who are crying for a way out ofr this addiction. Young girls who sell their bodies so that they can have their next fix of drugs is heart rendering. These people were babies once, children, and now this horrible drugs have taken control of their lives. We should help them this time we need love and discipline and warm and caring rehab clinics. Let me tell you young person if you are reading this drugs is not the way out of your problems it is the worst problem, you need to check your self in a rehab place and have faith in God and He will help you out of your addiction.

 

If you are an alcoholic go to alcoholic anonymous and get help my grandfather on my mother’s side was an alcoholic I never met him but my mother told how difficult it was for my wonderful, gracious, sweet grandmother who had five children my mother being the youngest to feed them and get them educated my grand mother is now with the Lord.

 

We need to educate our young people not only on having safe sex (though I personally believe in sex after marriage) but on the destruction of drug and alcohol abuse. I live in Northern Ireland and for many binge drinking is a norm on weekends. Sex, drugs and rock n roll will give your money pocket a hole. It will get you no where. We as parents have to give our children a loving home where they can grow as individuals with a strong mind and loving heart.

 

Don’t let the next generation slip into a world with no morals, values and having addictions we need to stop it. Children should be taught about the evils of drug and alcohol abuse and also about having a healthy life style of sport and academics and food.

 

Now let us go around the world to what doctor Borlaug says about food :-

 

“Yet food is something that is taken for granted by most world leaders despite the fact that more than half of the population of the world is hungry.”

Norman Borlaug

 

While people in the west struggle with addictions, obesity and couch potato lifestyle the people  in the other parts of the world walk miles and miles for a drink of water and food what a vast difference. In this era of millions and billions of pounds and dollars going on military, rockets, satellites and so on there  about half the people going hungry.

 

While people in the west are eating themselves to death some people do not even have one meal a day and many farmers and the financially backward are stuck in a rut of debt. We have to help people have at least one meal a day. Help the poor get jobs. Dr Borlaug had fought a long fight and because of him many thousands have food.

 

Dear friends the choice is yours do not be selfish think outside the boundaries of your secure life. Help in some way either in your own land or another land. People need your help. You can help by spending more time with family and helping your children have a better life than ourselves, visiting old people in the home for the aged or sending money or starting your own charity for people you know.

 

Everyone deserves a chance to live in this world and people need a second chance maybe they messed it up once but let us help them be the people they were created to be people with self respect and dignity.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Hi there dear sweet munchkins, my dear sweetypies, how are you all doing ? I would firstly like to thank all of you who commented on my site thank you so much .  The world looks brighter and chirper because of your comments.

Today I would like to talk about change. What is change ? How do we change ? Let me tell you every second there is in time there is change of some sort or other. How do we mankind change we need to prioritize will this benefit my family, will it benefit others close to me, will it benefit the Lord?

Learn to let go of past mistakes, learn to let go of wrongs done to you those who did you wrong would have forgotten about it why should you hold on it and get psychosomatic diseases let go.

I have had a lot to let go of and now am really happy inside and out.

Think positive and act positive if someone is mean just smile and say isn’t it a lovely day soon your infectious positivity will rub off on the whole town. Let me tell you something personal I always cared what people thought of me. My dad was an Anglican Minister and he strictly said no dating in University so I never dated in University never rebelled and never partied because of the fear of bringing shame to the family.

When I was in 26 or 27 years old and way past marriageable age my mum was looking into Shadi.Com for prospective bridegrooms that was the time I put my foot down and said  I want a love marriage or the marriage where I get to fall in love as I was a hopeless romantic due to the 100’s of mills and boons I had read.

Then I met this gorgeous Irish man fell in love and got married. Life has not been a bed of roses but my husband has been a stable source of comfort and help and we have been blessed with a gorgeous daughter.

I hope to move with the times and let my daughter date and be a normal teenager but at the same time instill some of the values of my Indian culture and provide her with a stable and secure home.

In conclusion I would like to put up this poem I wrote some time back :-

Riddles

Why so confusing,The life and future,contemplating

What job would best suit our needs,debating

Does God really exist, questioning

How did God exist before he existed, thought provoking

Is love a fact or a feeling, emotions heightening

Does God speak through thunder and lightening ,frightening

Are there other worlds beside our own? Aliens emerging

Does heaven and earth one day meet? The universes merging

Yet the cross remains standing ,truth arising

The lamb who died on the cross had a marking

The starting of another world in a making
 ,The heavens applauding

Angles descending on earth
Cause this new world is starting , shocking

The universe in the making

Yet time is left starting and ending
 , To make time obsolete,

This new world shall emerge without time
 ,Yet created before time for a time
 Clock ticking

So dear sweet munchkins hope you have a wonderful weekend you are precious in God’s eyes and hope you have a wonderful week ahead lots of love from the Spicy Indian Tandoori I mean aunty

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

Hi there dear sweetypies, my dear munchkins how are you all doing ? Today I would like to talk to all the mummies out there and those who are in relationships and those who would like to get into relationships this article is specially designed for the women.

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

Marilyn Monroe

In this  world dear senoritas it takes effort and perseverance to bag your man and keep him. It does not mean once you are married you change your wardrobe to sweats and non complementing lounge wear. NO this is the time to look your best for your man. In the morning before your sweet heart goes to work make an effort to change from your PJ’s and wear something smart and bright and also remember to brush your teeth, comb your hair and wear make up. I am by no means telling you to be a Geisha but look your best.

When a man leaves home with his bride just out of bed uncombed hair sans make up and a grogy good bye from wifey , this man goes straight to work and the first thing he sees miss gorgeous with perfume, perfect hair and make up at the reception desk.

No we all can not look like Marilyn Manroe or Victoria secret models but we have to work at it. Women the ALL NATURAL look has gone with the cave men we are now in a cosmetic enhanced world. Not everyone is born with great height, skin, hair and beauty we have to work at this to keep our men where we would like Him to be and that is by our side till death us do part.

Women should take care of themselves many feminists believe that they can do things as well as any man but remember “gals” God first made man in His image and then the woman to complement the man.

If you want to get into a relationship with a man or keep the fire going in your relationship first and foremost commit to prayer and then the gym, hair, make up, waxing , bathing, flossing and perfume. Surprise your man when he comes home from work one day send the kids to grandma’s house and set the mood once your preened and pruned wear something sexy light the house with candles and cook his favorite meal. Let me tell you your homeboy will be surprised and very appreciative.

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

Marilyn Monroe, Marilyn

Non of us women are perfect how ever much we try but we can bring warmth, positivity and joy into our home. Do not belittle your children, do not nag your husbands just try and be patient and loving. “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”1 Corinthians 13:4-6,13.

We need to love our husbands and families and if we love God this love naturally overflows. We do not need cosmetic surgery even though if you have the means it can boost self esteem but the greatest boost of self esteem comes from our families.

Women do not look at success from the world point of view if you have a loving stable home or are searching for one always take it up in prayer and then also look your best even you have hit the jackpot of a handsome rich husband keeping that relationship alive and motivating is up to you so remember God first and family second and you third.

We must keep our families happy and that includes husband, children and yourself. When I was at school our English teacher told us to write our epitaph or what would be written on our grave and I wrote many years before I met my husband    “She was the sunshine of our home” Many times there have been dark clouds, rain, rainbows and I always pray there will most often be sunshine.

So with rays of light and delight

The Indian Aunty signing off

Everyone deserves a chance to love and be loved in return

Hi there munchkins this blog is designed specially for those who are looking for love. I believe every human being has a partner specially designed for him or her. When God made man God made them male and female. Now through the evolving of the world and the evolving of morals there are relationships between man and man or woman and woman.

I am not here to judge or criticize you or push religion down your throats. In fact I have a few gay guy friends. I love these people who have one longing that is love.

Love the ungodly, love the gay or lesbian. Do you know there is a prostitute in the lineage of Jesus called Rahab. Love the different and the difficult. Love the gothics they are just expressing how they feel to the world.

Man can be born that way to be attracted to men or there must be some underlying problem in his life. There are even Christian eunuchs or transvestites in the Bible who are mentioned in the Old and New Testament. There is the place in heaven for the different.

People in this fallen world where there is binge drinking, one night stands and homosexual relationships all cry out for one word and that is love. Unconditional Love and acceptance into this world for who they are.

Why should we categorize people by their outward appearance be it a particular religion, race, dress sense or if they are who they are. Let me tell you something Jesus was a non conformist . He brought about free grace and forgiveness of sins by dying a shameful death on the cross. He did not judge the woman caught in adultery. He spoke to a woman who had many husbands where even speaking to someone of the opposite sex was considered a sin much less a Samaritan woman.

He saw the corruption in the Synagogue and overturned the tables and drove out the self righteous bigots or Pharisees.

He was not a Pharisee he was a carpenter by trade a simple non conforming human being who drank wine  and ate with the people the world turned it’s back on.

He dined with the tax collectors and prostitutes and touched lepers and healed them. Who are we to judge the gays, lesbians, prostitutes  or the gothics they are people like you and me seeking love, seeking their identity and seeking a God of love.

Do not be a bigot or gossiper if you point out one finger at them with your self righteous seat remember there are four fingers pointing back at you.

Learn to love, The Bible says love your neighbor as your self . The greatest command in the Bible is LOVE. If you want to change the world have LOVE .  Friend LOVE exists it is real like a warm waterfall. Man, relationships, money can not give you that love but God can. I do not care if you are a drug addict or alcoholic or have had multiple sexual partners but just go into a room close the door and say God if you are real show me your love minimum time is 15 minutes and watch him spread his love over you. Just try it once you have love , That love can take the place of addictions what ever it is. He is real and He loves you.

Love from the non conforming

Indian Aunty