Do you have a game plan

My dearest sweet munchkins, sweetypies do you have a game plan for your life or your spouse’s life. If someone asked me if I have a plan the answer is realistic no. I wish I had a plan, I wish I can whisper my plans to somebody but the answer is no I do not have a plan. There are things that I would like but can’t see it in the near future but I do not have a plan there are always means to an end but the end is somewhere and like an island I do not have the  boat to get me what I want.

People say grow up act your age but I am me and I act the way I was brought up or society has made me. Every one has an inner child and we can push that inner child  or you just be you and that is what I am, I am me and not trying to copy or be someone else.

I am unique  as everyone is unique and I have my faults and yet I am me. No one is perfect, no one can have perfect thoughts or attitude but everyone has a bit of good and bad. I hope the good in me is greater than the bad.

Why the heck do we have to compare ourselves or compete with someone else maybe someone else has a game plan and you do not. Dear ones enjoy life, you are you and you are unique. If no one shows you love remember God loves you and He will never leave nor forsake you.

Maybe like me you have children who need your love and attention. Pour out your love to them and visit elderly relatives who need your love. What the world needs is undiluted, unsexualised pure love.

How can we love this way spend time reading spiritual books and prayer and meditation. Relax from your stress and worries. Do breathing exercises and then once you are energised you can give love to those near and dear to you. Don’t be selfish in love give a smile, or say hello or help someone in need and the God of love will shower his love on you.

Do you have a game plan the answer is No but my Lord has a plan and that is the best plan for my life. Let HIM the creator of life plan, seek his help and advice and any evil plan coming your way HE the Lord of life will destroy.

So do not be afraid or upset God has it all under control Believe and Expect the Best for your life. Life is too short for unnecessary, unrealistic ,competition.

So Smile and laugh and be happy. There is a song that goes have you got the sunshine smile or Colgate smile whatever smile and be happy.

From Happy But Not Gay

Indian Aunty

The Road Not Taken

 

 

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Robert Frost

Dear darlings, munchkins, sweetypies how are you all doing ? The poem above is one of my favorite poems.

I always wanted to be different and though I was able to fit into the mold of a good paster’s daughter I wanted to travel, to explore the world , to fall in love, and yes I did the  latter. I traveled, I went to different countries and explored different cultures still deep inside I was a paster’s daughter.

The cultures varied but inside I was a paster’s daughter I did not have the courage to rebel nor did I want to.

Rebellion can be a good thing or a bad thing. Martin Luther rebelled against the corruption of the early catholic churches and brought about reformation and freedom by justification of grace to the protestants.

Martin Luther King rebelled against white supremacy and today because of his rebellion we have a wonderful

colored President of USA which was only a dream in the times of Martin Luther King.

When the British ruled India, our great and wonderful freedom fighter Mahatma Gandhi brought about independence to India by sathyagraha or non-violence.

Rebellion can be a wonderful thing if done rightfully. Our Lord Jesus rebelled against the Pharisees and broke boundaries between the Gentiles and the Jews and now we can accepted into God’s family of believers due to the breaking of boundaries by Jesus.

Dear ones if you want to rebel go ahead and do it right, doing drugs or over dosing in alcohol or bed hoping is not rebellion it is stupidity. So if you want to rebel rebel  go ahead, but do it for your benefit and the benefit of society.

If you were bullied or tormented prove your adversaries wrong do well in life, go to university, get a good job. Susan Boyel the lady who was tormented all her 46 years rebelled by going on Britain’s got talent and became a global sensation and those who tormented her hid their faces in shame.

Go ahead break the mold of society, travel the less travelled road, life is too short to do nothing if people are mean to you rebel and flash them the sweetest smile and say how do you do, maybe they are jealous, maybe they are insecure but my dear friend are “You”. “You” are not them, “You” are not everybody, “You” are somebody and that is why they are frightened. So stand up and make a difference in this community and the world. The Stakes are high the rewards worthwhile. God Bless from the Rebellious Indian aunty

Be An Encourager

dearest darlings, sweetypies, munchkins my cho cho chweet darlings how have you been ? Well I have been doing well and supporting my husband in his  teaching in our church. When we said our marriage vows it is for better for worse for richer or poorer, in sickness and I  health till death do us part.

We are of different cultures and colours but one thing remains we said our vows in church in front of God and family and friends and  we both took our vows seriously. We have had our ups and downs but our marriage has been like the Ocean sometimes there are heavy winds and storms but the ocean remains steadfast so is our marriage while God is our light house bringing light to our storms and winds.

We both have a steady hand guiding us and that hand is our Almighty God. Today as I sat at the bible study that my husband takes at our church I thought what more can I do that will make me a better wife to my husband and I clearly felt “ Support Him” He has been with me about seven years while he was working in IT as a computer Engineer while we were dating now he is serving God and is studying to be a pastor.

My dad is an Anglican Minister and I admired his preaching and teaching and here am I so many years later admiring my husband’s teaching and supporting him. When I was younger God gave me a verse which said “ me and my house will serve the Lord “ Now that verse is being fulfilled.

Dear friends what God promises he provides and guides. You may be dreaming of a life partner hold on to God and he will provide. You may be asking God to open doors in business or in ministry, dear friends if God has promised you this he will open that door it took 6 years for my husband to go into ministry but at the right time God opened the door.

Wait on God, read the word and just speak to God and watch God fulfil that plan for your life. As for me I am overflowing with gratitude and thankfulness to God for giving me the joy and privilege in hearing my husband conduct that Bible study and all I want to be is a supportive wife sans nagging and a wonderful mother to my gorgeous two year old daughter if I can accomplish this I would have fulfilled my role on earth as a wife and mother at this time for my family.

Today all I can say is I am grateful and content with my role on this earth

Metamorphoses

Hi there dearest sweet munchkins, how are you my sweet, sweet friends hope you are doing well ? Life is like a game of cards you can gamble with life and come out with Aces but whatever card you choose to play remember there are others playing the game as well.

 

How do we strategize our next move if you are playing poker, solatire, or just fun games as snap remember it is You who govern your destiny. God has a plan but you have the choice so choose your card well.

 

Your destiny lies in your hands sometimes society tries to govern us and keep us defeated but the Phoenix rose from the fiery ashes people thought they had destroyed the bird but that was when it rose in all it’s glory.

 

The butterfly was a worm which slept in a cocoon for a long time but one day metamorphous took place and out emerged this beautiful creature. My dear ones you may have fallen, or working too hard on your job or are just looking for your job or are just waiting for that promotion remember your time to shine will arise.

 

God has a plan do not fight Him. He is unbeatable do not run from Him as you may end up in the waters but let Him guide you and you will be more prosperous, happier and more contented it does not mean sell all you have and go to Timbuktu  as a missionary no listen to your heart , your intuition and God will open that door for you and me.

 

The days of slogging on the mission field is not as necessary as it used to be we now have media and technology, cell phones and Google the whole world is connected by television and iPhones’ and BlackBerrys.

 

What we need is to tell the next generation of our God and instill in them values of our Faith in God. Dear ones do not just live in the present think about the future for our children and may be arise to a better, brighter and more lovelier tomorrow.

 

From the Indian Aunty  saying” There is Hope for a Better Tomorrow”

 

Impossible Dream

Dearest sweet munchkins , hi how are you all today ? Well darlings this week has been a revelation for me. Yes darlings the light has dawned, the sun has risen on my confused mind, the fuse of the light bulb in my mind has started working and yes I know as I know, as I know, as I know as that the world is connected by media and words and technology  that one thing going around the world is the gospel and Jesus is Lord.

I have suffered from depression for some time.I am small in stature 5 feet 3 inches, am Indian, a wife and a mother we do not have much materially but I am contented though there  are  a few things I would really love for my family, I may get these things in this life or I may not but seeing my daughter’s face every morning makes life worthwhile.

I do not wish this depression on anyone as at times it has been too hard to bear but God has been with me and helped me choose Life over death. So let us live life to the fullest Darwin wrote about survival of the fittest but I believe to be fit you have to be mentally strong so I would say not the physically fit but the mentally fit have a better advantage of this world.

So let us have a strong forehead and soft heart to live in this world.

Lots of love n prayers the Indian Aunty  

O Captain! My Captain!

O Captain! my Captain! our fearful trip is done;
The ship has weathered every rock,the prize we sought is won;
The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting,
While follow eyes the steady keel, the vessel grim and daring: Walt Whitman,

Hi there dear munchkins, my darlings, my chocho chweet friends, How are you all doing? Today I am going to talk about Life, Karma or Fate who navigates our life ? Is it some supreme force of the universe called God or is it your parents, friends, loved ones ?

Dear friends they all have a role to play in your life but the choice is up to you. Sometimes man makes right choices, wrong choices, hard choices but dear one “You” ultimately make the choice good or bad.

Sometimes the environment we live in makes choices and the freedom of choice is taken from us but do you know there will come a time when we can overcome the environment or society and make our move to a better future for ourselves.

We are like players in a game of chess with Divine intervening with the society as we should strategize our intelligent next move. Let me tell you dear munchkins if we carefully planned and strategized our life we would not be or could be where we are now.

He who fails to plan, plans to fail. I never in this world planed anything in my life. I am quite childish in my approach to life I have no enemies, love my fellow human beings and like to go on skipping in the sunshine collecting daises and flowers and everything is wonderful in this bubble of life I have built but I know life is not about butterflies and daises and roses there are hard times in life and I have been through them but I do not want to think about it.

Life is better if we let God plan our life and seek heavenly guidance before any major decision or choice I have learnt to plan small things in my life now like picnics but what I learnt so far is let God do the planning and we walk in His plans.

Let us pray:-

Dear God you plan my life from now on make my mess of a life into a message for the world so that I walk in God’s plan.

Live life to the fullest with God being your Captain.

Lots of love and from the Indian Aunty

Money, Friends and Bills

Hi there dear sweetypie, munchkins, darlings, how are you today ? Today I would like to talk to you about friendship or frandship as they say in India. We all need friends like people who we rely on in hard times and people who we get along with and form that loving bond of togetherness.

People who we like to have fun with and just get along finding those people is not easy and once we find them we have to cultivate our relationships.  There are people when we meet them there is a spark right away. When I met my husband there was chemistry  right away and we got along great from our first date.

There are people who are lonely in this world. Like people living in an old age home they need love. Single parents, divorced parents they all need love. What is this love they need ? it can just be someone who gives them a hug, someone who would listen to them, someone who cares enough to cook them a meal and bring it over.

Dear friends we live in a cosmopolitan, busy, hectic  life where people live to work but let me ask you is life all about making money and forgetting our loved ones including our children and spouse.What happened to those days when life was easy and carefree. It has now become complicated and busy, busy.

Busy to spend quality time with our partner and children.

Yes you say who will pay the mortgage and car insurance, and electric and food bills have gone up. Gone are those days when we lived simple easy lives. But let me tell you life does not need to be a struggle. Life is to be enjoyed contentment is not easy these days. Oh yes ! we need that house like Mr and Mrs Jones, We need that car why can’t we just take early retirement once we have what we need to live comfortably and enjoy playing golf and looking after our grand kids.

Dearest munchkins let us make a positive change in our lives to spend quality time with our loved ones be it our children or our spouces. Take them out for a meal or bowling or golf just learn to cool down and enjoy this world that God has given us.

Love and be loved in return, lots of love from the Indian aunty

Love will it still be there after 25 years of marriage

Dear munchkins, my darling friends will we be in love after 25years, Lets go through different stages of love, firstly is idolising your daddy or mummy they are perfect parents. I always thought my father was the handsomest man in the world till I got a crush on Amir Khan who is a famous actor. It was infatuation and a crush. Every one male or female have a crush or puppy love for some one at their early teen age years.

Then you get your boyfriends and girlfriends late teenage years and more crushes and infatuations till you meet the one and then in early marriage you have passed from friendship stage to lover’s stage better a little said about this topic as you can read various books about it but this is a wonderful, stage from getting to know each other physically , emotionally  and psychologically .

Then it becomes Mother and Father phase where your children become more important than the spouse and the lover mode goes to the pressure cooker mode and if you are a woman cooking, cleaning, doing errands that pressure cooker is gona whistle quite loudly sometimes but let me tell you mothers take some me time, read books, make some herbal tea and relax after the kids have gone to sleep.

Then comes middle age the weight piles on our children are teenagers and we try to get them to good colleges and they want to travel or work or want to be models or dancers not quite what we had in mind for our little ones but this is the time we come up a few promotions on our jobs and it helps fund your children’s dreams.

Then your children find boyfriends or girlfriends and want to get married that is when the savings account comes in helpful. Then before you know it you are grand parents and now your relationship with your spouse is companionship and fun from playing golf to babysitting life can not be more peaceful .

Through all these phases remember to ask do you love me darling and I tell you I know none knows you better than your partner and the answer is yes I Do, from the walk down that isle till the end I love you

Love from the Indian Aunty

No man succeeds without a good woman behind him. Wife or mother, if it is both, he is twice blessed indeed. Harold MacMillan

 

 

 

Hi there dearest dearest munchkins, sweetypies, my cho cho chweet friends, how are you all doing ? Well I had an interesting week just watched the Bollywood movie Cocktail which it was aptly named fewer the words the better but I thank God for happy endings.

 

Well my dear cutey pies today I am going to talk to wifes out there, the mummies out there. In one of my previous blogs I stressed on the point to looking good for our better halfs now I going to tell you something learn to complement him. Tell him honey you look smart in that pair of Jeans and white shirt or tell him wow look at that tux it will make you look so handsome. Buy him small gifts of cufflinks, or deodorant, after shave or even perfume in this world and age even men like to be treated once in a while if you are not in the buying thing, bake him a cake, cook him nice dinner just show him how much you appreciate him.

 

Men they work from 9-5pm they are busy sometimes they get stressed do not irritate or complain to them, let it wait give them a good meal and when they are well settled talk to them in a soft voice. Aggression in women is a turn off so is miss “bitchitities”  please be patient with him. Women you can never be his mother but be his best second half listen to him, counsel him, no one knows him better than you do make life exciting in the week ends play scrabble or Uno just be his best friend.

 

I have learnt if you want your marriage to work be his best and closest friend then of course take time with your figure, hair and make up and if there is a fight I urge you women to be humble enough to apologize to him. Men you too need to take care of your women and treat them well with date nights every week we need marriages to work. We need humility in our lives before God and before our spouses and we need to bring back love for our wives and for our families.

 

So let the God of Love reign in our lives

 

From Doctor Lovology

The Indian Aunty

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Hi there dear sweet munchkins, my dear sweetypies, how are you all doing ? I would firstly like to thank all of you who commented on my site thank you so much .  The world looks brighter and chirper because of your comments.

Today I would like to talk about change. What is change ? How do we change ? Let me tell you every second there is in time there is change of some sort or other. How do we mankind change we need to prioritize will this benefit my family, will it benefit others close to me, will it benefit the Lord?

Learn to let go of past mistakes, learn to let go of wrongs done to you those who did you wrong would have forgotten about it why should you hold on it and get psychosomatic diseases let go.

I have had a lot to let go of and now am really happy inside and out.

Think positive and act positive if someone is mean just smile and say isn’t it a lovely day soon your infectious positivity will rub off on the whole town. Let me tell you something personal I always cared what people thought of me. My dad was an Anglican Minister and he strictly said no dating in University so I never dated in University never rebelled and never partied because of the fear of bringing shame to the family.

When I was in 26 or 27 years old and way past marriageable age my mum was looking into Shadi.Com for prospective bridegrooms that was the time I put my foot down and said  I want a love marriage or the marriage where I get to fall in love as I was a hopeless romantic due to the 100’s of mills and boons I had read.

Then I met this gorgeous Irish man fell in love and got married. Life has not been a bed of roses but my husband has been a stable source of comfort and help and we have been blessed with a gorgeous daughter.

I hope to move with the times and let my daughter date and be a normal teenager but at the same time instill some of the values of my Indian culture and provide her with a stable and secure home.

In conclusion I would like to put up this poem I wrote some time back :-

Riddles

Why so confusing,The life and future,contemplating

What job would best suit our needs,debating

Does God really exist, questioning

How did God exist before he existed, thought provoking

Is love a fact or a feeling, emotions heightening

Does God speak through thunder and lightening ,frightening

Are there other worlds beside our own? Aliens emerging

Does heaven and earth one day meet? The universes merging

Yet the cross remains standing ,truth arising

The lamb who died on the cross had a marking

The starting of another world in a making
 ,The heavens applauding

Angles descending on earth
Cause this new world is starting , shocking

The universe in the making

Yet time is left starting and ending
 , To make time obsolete,

This new world shall emerge without time
 ,Yet created before time for a time
 Clock ticking

So dear sweet munchkins hope you have a wonderful weekend you are precious in God’s eyes and hope you have a wonderful week ahead lots of love from the Spicy Indian Tandoori I mean aunty